The Getting Old Delimna

Today I pulled a hair from my head. It was a color that, until this year, had been foreign to my scalp – it was grey. But it wasn’t fully grey. One third of the hair was grey, one third was a deep brown brown and the middle third was a transition. It measured 9 centimeters. What made this hair unique is that there was an equal amount of grey to brown.

I wanted to find out if there was anything that could have caused my hair to turn Grey besides age and the best way to determine that was to find out what point in time my hair started turning grey.

First, I needed to determine how much time this hair had been growing, then I could divide that time to find out roughly at what point my hair started turning grey. Next I needed to check the calendar and recall specific events that occurred during that point in time.

It turns out hair grows at a rate of 1.25 centimeters a month. Doing the math, the hair had been growing for about 7.5 months. Since it’s grey segment started transitioning 2/3 of that time back it meant that 5 months ago, right at Memorial day, is when the transition began.

A few days before last Memorial Day I ruptured a disk in my back between L4 and L5. Although I had degenerative disk disease since January of this year, it wasn’t until just before Memorial Day that a certain incident caused the pain to become unbearable. I went through a series of doctor visits, tests and therapy along with taking irregular doses of Ibuprofen, aspirin, fish oil, and a Glucosamine, Chondroitin, MSM complex.

I don’t know if it has any significance but I wanted to consider some other variables.

During this time I remember being under a considerable amount of stress at work and was overall unhappy with life. All major areas were sources of stress. We kept falling back into debt because of laziness, the relationships with my wife and children were decaying because of long work hours, I wasn’t sleeping or eating properly, and wasn’t relying on God or spending quiet time with Him. If there is such a thing as a biorhythm, I was spent on every level.

The only other factor I can think of involves some terrible fits of sneezing, headaches and itchiness caused by an onset of allergies that lasted from late July to mid October.

I admit that I first thought of the back problems to be the cause; I don’t know what signals a pinched nerve distorts. That idea quickly went away when I searched for “ruptured disk grey hair” and immediately saw a trend in the results. Most of the websites that came back mentioned copper deficiency. That’s not all. There was another page that identified a relationship with grey hair and bone density. Studies at the Maine Center for Osteoporosis Research indicated that if at least half your hair turns grey before you turn 40, you had four times greater chance for showing low bone density compared to others who grey after 40.

Interestingly enough, lack of copper causes the mood to swing downward. It also causes the immune system to shift off balance in a way that can cause more nasal infections and sensitivity to fungus.

So if this has merit then increasing copper and calcium in my diet can possibly reverse the grey hair and strengthen my back. Before going down that road I wanted to check out other issues. First, what are the risks of increasing copper? Is there such a thing as copper poisoning? There is, and there is a risk of zinc depletion when copper is in excess. http://www.drlwilson.com/articles/copper_toxicity_syndrome.htm has some good details on the benefits and problems with copper. OK – so now we need a copper, calcium and zinc supplement.

Vegetarian diets contain high amounts of copper – particularly leafy greens.

I still have some unanswered questions. What other nutrients, when lacking, increases the risk of slipped or ruptured disks? What nutrients are depleted from the body to heal the disk? What other nutrients, when lacking, increase depression or stress and what nutrients are depleated when someone is under depression or stress? Finally apply these same questions to allergies. I’ve learned that the grey hair, the slipped and even ruptured disk, the allergies and depression are actually symptoms and not diseases. Rather than buying a bottle of hair color, Advil, Benadril or antidepressants – all designed to cover up the problem – I’m eyeing that cup of fresh wheat grass juice, black tahini spread and a slab of lamb liver. Cure the disease; don’t cover up the symptoms.

Other links of interest:
“When I turn up the raw heat (so to speak) I have seen my grey hairs completely go away.” (Raw foodist diet is high in copper)
http://www.giveittomeraw.com/forum/topic/show?id=1407416%3ATopic%3A88854

“there should be very little of these strength of elastin tissue diseases such as aortic, abdominal, or thoracic aneurysm, hemorrhoids, and slipped disc among people who eat a lot of shellfish.” (food with high copper content)
http://charles_w.tripod.com/copper3.html

“Some symptoms of a copper deficiency: Allergies, Anemia, Dry Brittle Hair, Heart Disease, Hypo and Hyper Thyroidism, Osteoporosis, Parasites, Ruptured Disc, White or Gray Hair, and Wrinkled skin.”
http://www.biophysica.com/copper.htm

“Ragweed [allergies], for example, is generally indicative of a phosphate/potash imbalance, but, more specifically, it indicates a copper problem.”
http://www.soilminerals.com/information.htm

Twenty touches

Each night my children and I spend anywhere between fifteen minutes and two hours together. Most of that time is spent reading before bedtime, but that time is also used to reconnect.

Many years ago, my wife and I attended a Gary Smalley seminar where he briefly mentioned the importance of touch. It’s something we all need to live. So I thought to myself that if I don’t supply my children with enough positive words and touches each day then there may come a time in their teen years that they look for that need elsewhere and end up experimenting with touch in ways that isn’t allowed outside of marriage.

So I asked my kids, “Do you get enough loving touches throughout the day: pats on the head, pats on the back, hugs, kisses… stuff like that?” They all answered “no”. So I wondered – how much do they need? Then came the question. “How many times do you feel you would need to know you are loved?” The eldest child only thought briefly before saying her answer: “Twenty times!”.

That’s quite a bit of touching to take place over the two to three hours I have available for them during the week days. With the size of my family, if everyone got 20 touches a day that would add up to 100 touches a day – not including our dog.

If that were spread throughout a three-hour-twenty-minute period it comes out to touching someone every 2 minutes.

I only remember getting a meaningful touch about once every other week growing up, which was still more than most of the kids I knew. I’ll bet our society has even pulled back to the point that children are only given a meaningful touch once a month, and that’s reserved for when the child initiates the hug.

One last thought – giving my children that access to my personal space makes me a tangible figure for them. I become more real and more accessible in ways beyond the physical. Hopefully they’ll learn that and come to their real accessible Dad during the more trying years ahead.

Meditation

“Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praise-worthy — meditate on these things.” – PHIL 4:8

I am very lured to talk about the incessant corruption evident in the current events. From companies that treat people like cattle to government corruption to the media that amplifies it.

I hate to admit, but when there’s a bad accident I’m drawn to see what happened. When work becomes stressful, I begin to concentrate on how stressful work is. This clouds my judgment from seeing obvious solutions to the problem.

I’ve been called a worry-wort and a wet-blanket amongst other things. There are many others out there who also mount worry and complaining in the halls of their daily living. They are like trophies. That’s not what God calls me to be.

We could ask why and go into some Freudian explanation just to explain it away, but that still focuses on problems.

In Disney’s movie “Pollyanna”, Philippians 4:8 becomes a pivotal element several times. The pastor is discouraged and dis-enlightened, a man is frustrated with the political corruption, one woman has a fixation on death, another on sadness, another on herself, and finally Pollyanna becomes fixated on her crippled condition.

Taking the lesson from the Bible, when I’m discouraged I should look for something to be glad about rather than complain.

I shouldn’t let discouragement build to the point of anxiety. The verses leading up to Philippians 4:8 explain how we should deal with anxiety – by bringing it to God. God is then said to bring peace – not solutions.

Like any good doctor a prognosis is mentioned with the cure to go with the medicine. Am I anxious? Bring it to God and get some peace. Chances are I’m anxious because there’s a focus on the wrong things. Change the focus and my condition will change with it.